Imagine that you are having a disagreement with someone. As you’re speaking, you notice that the other person is paying close attention to you; not just to your words, but also your voice tone and body language. They are consciously and mindfully being with you at that moment. They are able to reflect back your message. You feel understood. Wow! What would your response be?
Chances are, you would feel respected. You would want to extend the same kindness and respect. Such a mutual regard would create a powerful foundation for working through any problem or disagreement.
During a conversation, and especially during a conflict, silence your mental chatter. Stop thinking about what your response may be. Just be open to what's being expressed. When you can be fully “here” in the moment, you lay the groundwork for respectful, mature conflict resolution.
Are you fully aware of the message that you are projecting through your verbal and nonverbal responses? Are you fully present during the conversation? Being fully present in the moment will go a long way toward defusing conflicts and having stronger relationships.