With change comes loss, even if the change is good. For some, it may just be missing something, someone, or missing a life phase. This feeling of loss must be acknowledged; you may need to grieve before can leave the “old” behind and step into the “new,” in a healthy way.
Most grief professionals agree that the grieving process consists of five stages that must be addressed in order to move on.
- Denial – Not accepting that it’s really happening.
- Bargaining – Believing that with negotiation or adjustment it can go back to the way it used to be.
- Anger – Feeling that the situation is “unfair.”
- Sadness – Feeling lost, alone, or vulnerable.
- Acceptance – Realizing that things will not go back to the way they were, and it is time to move on.
This process is not linear. You may go back and forth and jump stages. This is normal. Don’t resist the grieving process. At first, it may seem, that grief is not good, and certainly not a pleasant experience. But it will help you to close one chapter of your life so you can move on to the next.