Whenever we sense a conflict arising, we automatically experience physical symptoms like sweaty palms, a quickened pulse, and a flushed face. Our fight-or-flight response is triggered. Take this as a warning.
If this happens, it’s time to take a deep breath and do some centering exercises. Before you face a conflict, consider these questions:
- Is my goal to win this argument, or am I on the side of our marriage or relationship?
- What are some options to solving this conflict?
- How can I be a part of the solution, and create a “Win-Win” for everyone involved?
- In the grand scheme of things, how important is this issue? Is this person?
- To what extent can I just, “Let it go?”
When you’ve taken the time to center yourself and think about questions like these, your demeanor will be calmer.
This calmness will make you better prepared for a successful conflict resolution and think of creative solutions. It will also help the other person be less defensive. You both benefit, and conflict resolution will happen more easily.