What is a counseling session like with you?
My approach is educative and solution-focused, so my clients see results in only a few sessions. When you are in the brink of a divorce, my goal with our first counseling session is to help you feel hope that your marriage can be saved and help you create a plan for transforming your marriage.
I help my clients focus on the kind of relationship they want, rather than on what went wrong in the past. My ideal client is someone who understands the value of therapy and is motivated to make positive changes.
Why do I need a Discovery Session before starting Counseling?
The Discovery Session allows both of us a chance to learn about each other in a relaxed and informative way. This is a confidential and strategic counseling session to determine the best way to be of help and service to you. And we can determine if, as therapist and client, we have a compatible style and best chance of success working together. We want the best for you. If we believe that another professional would much better help you, we will refer you to that person.
How do I prepare for my first counseling appointment?
Prior to your session, you will need to complete the Intake Forms. Please set aside at least 1 hour to complete this task. Please submit your Intake Forms at least 2 business days prior to your session. Dr. Isaacson needs to review them prior to your first session.
What are your fees?
Individual Sessions (60 min): $150 daytime $180 evening (after 5 pm)
Couples Sessions (60 min): $150 daytime $180 evening (after 5 pm)
Crisis Couples Session (1.5 hrs): $225 daytime $270 evening (after 5 pm)
Individual History (1.5 hrs): $225 daytime $270 evening (after 5 pm)
The cost of marriage counseling is extremely reasonable compared to attorney costs and divorce proceedings. The average cost of a divorce is $15,000 in the U.S. The financial costs does not stop there. Studies have shown that a divorced couple have much less financial net worth and have much lower standard of living than couples who stay together.
In a divorce, everyone loses. The psychological and emotional costs can be devastating for the husband, wife, and the family. There was a time when you and your spouse were very much in love with each other. And you both expected that love to last forever. Why not use this crisis or challenge to reconnect with each other, rekindle your love for each other, and rebuild an even stronger and better marriage than before?
Marriage counseling is an investment in yourself, your marriage, and your children. A loving and committed marriage is priceless and will positively affect generations to come.
My marriage is in trouble. My spouse doesn't care anymore and doesn't want get counseling. Can I save my marriage alone?
YES! It only takes one to tango. Change the steps to the dance, and your partner must respond.
While 50 percent of couples who marry end up divorce, 90 percent of those who stay together report their marriage as being "Unsatisfactory." But it doesn't have to be this way.
Marriage is an evolving, living entity of its own. When you start working on improving yourself and your relationship, you will see very positive effects on your marriage. It may take some time, but your partner will start noticing the difference and start responding positively.
About 90 percent of our clients come to us when they are on the brink of divorce. They feel exhausted, anxious, angry, frustrated, and even apathetic. They may already be separated or have filed divorce papers. They may be deeply involved in another relationship. Remember, you were very much in love in the beginning. But when we don't make our marriage our top priority, we grow apart from our spouse. Let's get back on track and transform your marriage, resolve conflicts, and restore love.
My spouse had an affair! Can our marriage be saved?
Being betrayed by your spouse is one of the most traumatic experiences a person can go through. But it doesn't necessarily mean your marriage is doomed. If fact, only about 15 percent of divorcing couples do so because of infidelity.
Infidelity is almost always about unmet needs. Overcoming infidelity is very difficult. While experiencing raw emotions and guilt, each partner has the added challenge of seeing how they have contributed to the problem and be willing to forgive, move forward together, and be willing to rebuild their relationship.
Can all marriages be saved?
The majority of couples I work with are successful in making a marriage transformation. Also, most of my clients are from referrals. Some relationships have serious problems, while some are relatively minor problems.
Many clients find that their first two to three sessions with Dr. Isaacson can help them out of their relationship crisis. They experience relief, hope, and clarity. They start to make positive changes to improve their marriage.
Most couples need 8 to 12 sessions to really get their relationship on a growth and intimacy trajectory. It takes time to build lasting changes, with setbacks and obstacles that may get in your way.
During the honeymoon phase of the marriage, problems are often overlooked when they should be addressed and resolved. Next comes the power struggle phase in marriage, in which most couples break up if they are unable to resolve conflicts. Then in the third and fourth stages, the couple either grows together or grows apart. These last 3 phases are the most challenging in the relationship. But regardless of your circumstances, you want at least know for yourself that tried everything humanly possible to save your marriage.
In the unfortunate event of a divorce or permanent separation, it is important that you get counseling to help you with the transition and to help you avoid making the same mistakes in a future relationship. Many people who divorce end up with the very same challenges and problems in their next relationship.
When is divorce the right choice?
Divorce is not a quick remedy. It may initially offer some relief from the constant conflict. If you have children together, you will still have to deal with your (ex) spouse or (ex)partner and learn to communicate with each other and be able to resolve conflicts. In fact, in many divorces, there are even more challenges and problems to deal with.
Divorce is a very traumatic experience for the couple. It also emotionally and psychologically impacts the children. Trying to rebuild your life will be much more challenging, especially when dealing with a blended family and issues with co-parenting and step-parenting.
There are circumstances in which individual therapy is essential before marriage counseling can be effective, such as in a case of a drug or alcohol addiction, physical abuse, psychological disorders, etc. If your spouse is willing to get individual treatment, then marriage counseling can help your relationship.
You will have to decide if you want to save your marriage. But it's important that you make this choice objectively, considering all your options and variables. The decision of divorce should never be made during a time of distress and emotional overload. You (and your children) will be permanently affected by this decision.
We're engaged! What should we do to avoid becoming a divorce statistic?
The romantic stage of a relationship is absolutely priceless. If you learn all you can about how to make your marriage work and communicate effectively, you can avoid the pain of serious marriage problems. We now offer the Marriage BootCamp program for premarital couples. Research shows that premarital education and coaching reduces divorce by 30 percent and increases couple connection and marital happiness.
I have family and friends to ask for advice. Why do I need a marriage counselor?
It's generally not a good idea to involve family and friends in your marriage problems. When dealing with in-laws, your relationship with them may become strained, at best. You and your spouse have every day to resolve your problems. But long after you and your spouse have resolved your conflict, your in-laws may have difficulty letting go of their negative feelings about you or your spouse.
Family and friends are often not objective in giving you advice. They love you and care for you. However, their advice may be based on their own struggles, or what they think is best for you, which may or may not be helpful or objective in helping you work through issues.
There are so many self-help books and programs. Why do I need a therapist?
Change is not easy. A skilled therapist can guide you in setting your goals, in this case, a better relationship with your spouse, in manageable steps. I can help you prepare for setbacks and help you correct the situation. I am there to help you understand your emotional trauma and guide you towards healing. I can help you understand how your past is contributing to your current relationship so that you can break unhealthy relationship patterns.
You want the simplest and most effective solutions to your complicated problems. A book or program on marriage is a good first step in learning to improve your marriage. But no book or program will address your individual situation and your particular concerns.
You are unique, and your marriage is one-of-a-kind. I am committed to your growth and the success of your marriage. Change and success happens much quicker when you are in a supportive environment.
I have been counseling couples for 30 years. Our core values are commitment, respect, love, integrity, and passion, which are the foundation of a committed marriage and relationships.
What should I look for in a therapist or marriage counselor?
You want a therapist who is qualified and experienced, whom you can trust, and also is on the side of your marriage success. Ideally, your therapist should also be successful in his or her own marriage and family relationships.
Marriage counseling is not a value-free process. Each therapist's approach reflects their attitudes toward marriage in general. If you want to save your marriage, optimally you should seek out a therapist who is married or pro-marriage and their default position is to help save your marriage.
In my experience, one of the best predictors of success in therapy is the trust and dynamic between the client and therapist. That's why we require a Discovery Session prior to accepting clients.
Is Dr. Jonathan Isaacson successful in his own marriage?
This is a very fair question. Dr. Jonathan Isaacson is married to his first and only wife, Katriela. They are a husband-and-wife team in the Marriage Clinic. They have four boys, ages 9 to 22, with the oldest recently receiving rabbinical ordination. Dr. Jonathan and Katriela Isaacson have raised a loving family, modeling for their children a healthy and happy marriage, and created a successful marriage counseling practice.
Our core values in marriage and business are commitment, respect, kindness, and integrity.
Do you accept insurance?
We do not accept and process insurance and are not on any insurance panels.
Marriage counseling is considered "preventive counseling," and often not covered unless one or both partners has a mental disorder diagnosis. Insurances that do cover marriage counseling usually limit each session to 45 minutes, which is hardly sufficient time for a therapy session. For most clients, we give a receipt with a diagnosis code of Z63.0 Marital Conflict/Maladjustment and procedure code of 90847 for Couples Counseling. Please check with your insurance carrier about their procedures ahead of time so there are no surprises later.
Other than providing receipts, Dr. Jonathan Isaacson and The Marriage Clinic do not get involved with insurance companies.
What are the advantages of receiving fee-for-service therapy?
For the greatest benefit of our clients, The Marriage Clinic does not accept insurance.
It is our goal to provide top-notch marriage counseling services. We are committed to helping you create the kind of relationship you want. It has been our experience that when a person makes an investment, he or she becomes a much more active participant in therapy. In the end it's about value - what it is that is valuable and important to you. And what is the best way to reach your goals.
When insurance providers become involved, only medically necessary treatment can be provided. It often requires that one partner or both have a personality or psychological disorder. Your therapy goals will be dictated by the insurer - for the treatment of a personality or psychological disorder. Having a personality disorder or psychological diagnosis will be permanent on your medical records. This could make you uninsurable in the future.
And for many professionals, it may become an impediment in their careers. In our view, it is very common for perfectly healthy individuals to experience partner relational problems. We don't focus on pathology, but instead on goals and results.
While Dr. Jonathan Isaacson is a trained expert in treating personality and psychological disorders, our focus is your marriage and relationship. This unique combination is one of the greatest benefit our clients receive.
Is marriage counseling worth your investment? Just consider for a moment that a couple can easily spend $5,000 for an engagement ring, $15,000 and upwards for a wedding, and another $5,000 for the honeymoon. The cost of a divorce for both spouses can easily cost $30,000 or more.
Most couples can make great progress within 6 to 12 counseling sessions. This cost is actually less than what most people pay for their cars every year.
We have long-term clients who schedule monthly or quarterly counseling sessions long after working through the initial crisis which brought them to The Marriage Clinic. They want to make their marriage a priority, and have made a commitment for long-term marriage success.
Marriage counseling is an investment, which positively affects the lives of your family today, and will affect your loved ones, for generations to come.
What are your office hours?
We are open Mondays and Thursdays from 10 am to 6 pm and Fridays from 9 am to 12 pm. We have limited availability after hours for regular clients. We are closed on Saturdays and Sundays.
What is your cancellation policy?
Appointments are made by calling 216-292-4500 or our website online scheduler. Please arrive to your appointment on time.
All counseling appointments require a credit card hold to schedule. Appointments are non-cancellable and cannot be rescheduled. Exceptions can be made for unusual circumstances on a case-by-case basis. Marriage counseling works best when taking care of your relationship becomes a priority. Please make sure you can attend your counseling appointment. Your appointment is reserved especially for you. That time is no longer available to serve other clients. Thank you for your understanding.